nuleafjhawk said:
@justanotherfan I must be the most naive guy on the planet. I haven't read all of the "racial" posts word for word, but I am literally in shock. This stuff is still that prevalent? I can't believe it.
I'm white, but I've had many friends over the years that were not. Mostly black and hispanic. I don't know what Brandon and Tim were selling, but It's never crossed my mind not to buy something - car, house, groceries, whatever it is i'm buying - from someone just because they are another race. That's CRAZY.
Just curious - are you guys in the midwest? Like I said, maybe i have my head in the sand, or maybe it's different in other parts of the country/world.
That's a sad, sad thing to not like someone for the color of their skin. (of course my twisted mind wants to add "when there are so many other things not to like them for!" jk )
First, its a credit to you that you don't think that way. I think a lot of people do not think that way. It absolutely IS crazy to think that way.
I am however, not surprised that you do not encounter this. I think we can agree that a very small percentage of the population is racist. Given that you know hundreds of people, you may know a handful of people with racial superiority/inferiority ideology. However, given your own position on these issues, those people likely won't ever act on that around you because they know you think that's crazy and will likely react, and may even socially shun them or change your opinion on them based on their attitudes toward race. You may even know some of these people well, but they would never reveal that side of themselves to you.
For instance, I was once called a "colored boy" in a business meeting. Needless to say, everyone that was there was shocked that the person that said that actually said it, and the reactions of others in the room reflected that.
But let's say that man had just said "this guy" instead of "colored boy". He has the same attitude in his heart. He holds the same ideology in his mind. He just has a better verbal filter.
I'm still not going to get a fair shake from him when I have to deal with him one on one. He still thinks of me as a "colored boy", he just knows he can't say that. By changing those two words, he draws zero reaction from anyone, and if I have problems dealing with him, no one will say that its because of his racial attitudes. They will just say that I have to learn to work with him on things, or that I have to be more flexible, or that I have to take more personal responsibility. The obligation shifts from him to me, even though I can't change his heart or mind, because he isn't doing something blatant, so he gets a pass even if he is politely screwing me over at every turn.
People with those attitudes have learned that they will be socially ostracized for that type of behavior, and no one wants to be an outcast. But they also know that they can feel the exact same way, and even act on that, so long as they watch what they say and never point to race as the determining factor. And if they do that, they can make sure you never even see it.