@parishawk Here's my opinion on the new layout:
The background image, which @lulufulu85 graciously gave us, has been muted so as to be easy on the eye.
The colors have been selected deliberately to be unobtrusive, the font colors were matched with the background colors (although there is still some tweaking to be done with font color), and the background colors were left solid so that reading would be easy on the eye. Being that obtrusivity is qualitative, I'm not sure where specifically there is an issue, though I'm not diminishing the importance of your gut reaction, it most certainly is important with design, I also believe that its important to let a new design sink in a
little while and see if your opinion remains the same.
This was our first attempt at a reskinning. I believe that this site needs a design that celebrates its identity as a community, and several other posters have made requests in that vein, so that is what we are going for. This is by no means a complete product, and we intend to tweak it, and see what the continued reaction to it is (again, thanks for reacting). Going back to the old theme wholesale is certainly an option, but that would be the nuclear option, if we simply cannot tweak it until it is someplace that gives the greatest satisfaction to the greatest number.
Also, to be sure that your browser hasn't cached part of the old theme, can you please hit Ctrl-F5, which clears out your browser's cache.